Wednesday 28th August I had a chance to complete some more of the boy’s bedroom make-over which is taking a lot of time because it’s a solo mum adventure. Up a ladder at about 5.20pm dripping wet wallpaper hanging from my shoulder and of course the phone rings. I usually ignore it because this time of day is often phone sales and blocked numbers and I don’t do blocked numbers. This time for some reason I didn’t. I juggled one hand holding wallpaper and the other I reached for the phone. The number was DCP and being after hours was unusual. I took the call and within half an hour two extra kiddies had joined our family for an emergency stay.
I’m always a sucker for a phone call that informs me that lil kids are in the office as the sunsets, not knowing where they would lay their head that night. A few days wouldn’t be too hard, just noisier.
What a wonderful time we’ve had. It’s now September 30 and that ‘few days’ became longer but that’s okay. One child is a six year old boy we shall call Ben10 who has been a great friend to six year old ‘Action Man’. The other was an eight week old baby boy nicknamed ‘Tiny’. He’s the cutest baby ever and he’s been so kind to me.
Ben10 put me through some mild issues on arrival but that was soon resolved, it’s amazing how quickly a stressed, scared child settles when placed in a secure, warm, caring environment. Besides the kids were allowed some extended playtime outside so they could run around with him and that seemed exactly what he needed.
Tiny was placed on a wake,feed,sleep routine that I’ve used since my own children were babies. Within 48 hours he went from three hourly waking through the night to waking only once between 10pm and 7am and now often sleeps through. He’s so sweet and shares his delightful chuckles and squeals and smiles readily with anyone willing to be flirted with.
The other kiddies have taken Ben10 and Tiny in with such amazing sharing and love, they make me proud. Don’t get me wrong there have been fights and tears and extra cuddles needed and I’d be concerned if there weren’t signs of upheaval of some kind. Emotions are important to a healthy mind and soul, both in children and adults.
The biggest emotional upset will come this Wednesday when Tiny leaves our home to move on to his placement decided by DCP. Ben10 is to stay a little while longer but will eventually move on to begin his new adventure.
For a short time my children will be reminded how fragile foster care is. They will need cuddles and re-assurance that they have a forever home. I would never stop this opportunity to share what they have with another foster child. Learning to give back will help them learn empathy for others. Feeling insecure for a moment isn’t something I’d block because it has helped them grow into the realisation of what security is when they again are reminded that once upon a time they were the Ben10′s and Tiny’s needing a new home.
For me I’m not shy to admit I’m totally smitten with baby Tiny and yes, I’ll miss him. I do however have plenty to keep me occupied and focused. Apart from extra cuddles to give all round I have that Pirate Bedroom to keep working on and a long over due relaxation float.